The top reasons for divorce exposed

Divorce, an ugly word at best, but over half of us will go through it, at least once. What are the top reasons for divorce, and if you see them listed here, can it really help you? If you or a friends marriage is approaching divorce, or if it is all ready there, take a long hard look at these top reasons for divorce to see if you can pin point what the problem is, or what the problem was.

1) Infidelity – Yes, the big “I”. The number one top reason for divorce in America today. Can this reason be solved? Even I cannot answer that.
2) Poor Communication – Don’t take a spouse or marriage fro granted. It needs constant work. Constant communication. Talk to each other, talk about things, anything, just talk.
3) Financial – You will need to work on your finances as a team, not as an individual. Marriage is a team sport, and all financial decisions should be made as a team. If you both made bad financial decisions, it’s harder to get mad at each other.
4) Addictions – This is the fastest growing of the top reasons for divorce. Sorry to say, this cannot be first solved in the marriage itself. The one with the addiction has to come to terms with their addiction first, then they can work with their spouse to recover from the addiction and repair the marriage. This is not only a notorious killer of marriages; it is a notorious killer of people.
5) Changes in Priority – This is a problem that results when there are big changes in your lives. Changes like kids or a new career. Maybe it’s no longer just the two of you, life is changing. She seems to care more about the kids than her husband, and he seems to care more about the career than his wife. There will always be changes in your lives, but in a marriage, you both have to change together.

Well, these are the top reasons for divorce today in North America. There are actually many more, but 80% of the population will find their reasons in the list above. If you marriage is still together, and you both want to save it, work on these topics, and work hard. Every good marriage is worth saving if there is still the element of love between you. In closing the top reasons for divorce really, really do not matter. What matters most is both of your’s top reasons for staying together? Think about that for a while.

Joseph J. Wood, as a professional researcher and author, has dramatically helped many experiencing or about to experience divorce through his writings. On his website, http://www.divorceandyourfamily.info he outlines many more ideas on this topic.