Top Reasons for Divorce: The Marriage Killers

Well you have finally done it. You took the Plunge. You said the two most famous words of all time "I Do" I am sure, like everyone else that has walked up the isle, you were thinking of the top reasons for divorce. This is very natural to think that, this is inevitability the biggest decision of your life. You should be concerned about the top reasons for divorce, and you should study them, and work at avoiding them or repairing them, to ensure a lifetime of happiness with the one you love.

The first thing to remember is do not over commit and create physical exhaustion in your life right after you get married. For many young couples you will try to go to collage, work full-time, have a family, remodel you house and maybe start a business. Then you wonder why your marriage is falling apart. Why wouldn't it? This is too much. There is no time for your relationship and growing it. The only time you see each other is when you are totally physically exhausted. This will not grow a marriage, this will destroy it. Make a plan when you start your marriage. Plan secondary education, plan when to start a family, plan when to start that business. Do not do it all at once. Now that you have a plan, let's discuss another top reason for divorce.

Excessive credit and conflict on how you spend you money is a big marriage killer. Pay cash for all consumable items, or do not buy them. This is very simple, but seldom done. You hear the television commercials. No money down, no interest for one year. Great a new big screen TV, new bedroom set, new living room set. Well, things will be good for one year, and then the bills start coming in and the fighting over finances begin. Start with a small house, and a used car in the price range you can afford. Don't listen to your banker; they want you to get the biggest loan they claim you both can afford. What happened if one of you loose your job, or want to go back to school? By properly allocation your finances, and not buying things on credit, you leave option open, money to spend on yourselves together, and avoid the constant financial arguments that are one of the top reasons for divorce. Now your life is not over committed and your finances are in order, what else is there to look for.

Although highly overlooked, an unhealthy relationship with the in-laws is one of the top reasons for divorce. You must remember, that your new partner in life comes first, and if the in-laws keep budding into your marriage, take control of it early. This can especially happen if you live close to your in-laws. You have to let them know, with love and affection, that you and your spouse have a life together you both need to be fully emancipated from the parents. You need a healthy relationship with your in-laws or this can be a marriage killer.

If you want to help your marriage today and avoid your marriage getting to the point of destruction, you need to begin identifying what the top reasons for divorce could be in your relationship. Look hard into your marriage, and talk to your partner, and any aspect of your relationship that you discover could possible be a marriage killer, destroy it early. As you study your marriage looking what could be your top reasons for divorce, remember, it is almost always 100% worth saving, and almost always easy to save, if the problem is realized early, and you and your spouse work as a team to continue to grow your relationship.



Joseph J. Wood, as a professional researcher and author, has dramatically helped many experiencing or about to experience divorce through his writings. On his website, http://www.divorceandyourfamily.info he outlines many more ideas on this topic.